The most common problem women have in relationships is lack of sexual desire.

It’s one of the primary reasons relationships and marriages end. 

As a tantra teacher for over a decade the main reason men came to see me 

was because they were not having sex with their wives and hadn’t for a long time,

Sometimes even many years. 

Most of them didn’t want to leave their wives but they were secretly terribly unhappy 

In the relationship and ripe for infidelity. Some had already taken other lovers.

Others were seeing escorts or sensual masseuse to get their needs met. 

Sometimes they spent a lot of money on these “hobbies” and even had deep ongoing 

Relationships with the “providers” for years. 

Often their wives didn’t want to know about their “hobbies” 

and were just happy they were not bothering them anymore for sex. 

This is a sad reality for many people and relationships. 

One of the reasons i became a Sex and Relationship Coach and Therapist (MFT) 

Is to help people with lack of sexual desire

Reclaim their birth right of pleasure and enjoying their body and relationship and life! 

And to have happier and more fulfilling relationships. 

There are many reasons for lack of sexual desire including 

Emotional issues in the relationship, a sexual abuse history, being a new mom, menopause and

Painful intercourse to name just a few areas that I treat. 

A common problem is that biology has set us up to have great sex for the first few years if that 

And then it shifts our hormones from mating to maintaining family. 

This means we feel in love for the first couple of years and then 

Those powerful love hormones wear off as we have successfully mated 

and perhaps even procreated a child. 

This is when people say they have fallen out of love! 

They don’t realize that this is a natural part of mating and bonding 

And they often blame it on having a child and or start looking for another partner

To start all over with to get the strong love cocktail of hormones they are missing.

It’s an addictive cycle and totally natural and built in biologically. 

To overcome it and keep the love alive we need to understand what is happening 

And to master our sexual energy and our partners sexual energy

to keep the passion and romance burning strong. 

This is what I teach in my Sacred Seductress Course for women and my Sexual Mastery Course for Men. 

There are lots of hacks you need to know. For example women need more non sexual touch in long term relationships aka massage to even feel their desire. 

Post your thoughts and comments below. Blessed Be Dear Ones.